Why Feeling is Healing

Have you ever felt like pushing your emotions aside was the easiest way to deal with them? Maybe you’ve told yourself, “I don’t have time to feel this right now,” or “It’s not a big deal.” It might seem like avoiding emotions helps you stay strong, but the reality is that ignoring what you feel doesn’t make those emotions disappear. Instead, they find other ways to show up—often in ways that can affect your body, mind, and relationships.

Your Body Keeps Score

When you suppress emotions, they don’t simply fade away; they manifest physically in your body. Have you ever noticed tension in your shoulders, frequent headaches, or unexplained fatigue? That’s your body carrying the weight of unprocessed emotions. Stress and emotional pain can lead to:

• Muscle tightness and tension, particularly in the neck and shoulders

  
  

• Increased heart rate and shallow breathing

  
  

• Digestive issues, such as stomachaches or nausea

  
  

• Trouble sleeping or frequent nightmares

  
  

• Lowered immune system, making you more susceptible to illness

Your body is designed to process emotions, but when they are pushed aside, they build up beneath the surface, creating a constant state of stress that can wear you down.

Emotional Pressure Cooker: The Build-Up Beneath the Surface

Think of your emotions like steam in a pressure cooker—if you don’t release the steam gradually, the pressure builds until it has no choice but to explode. Ignoring emotions doesn’t make them go away; it just means they gather strength over time.

• When you suppress emotions, you may notice:

  
  

• Increased irritability or frustration over small things

  
  

• A sense of emotional numbness or disconnection

  
  

• Difficulty concentrating or making decisions

  
  

• Feeling overwhelmed without knowing why

The more emotions go unacknowledged, the more they pile up, making them harder to manage when they finally surface.

How Ignoring Your Emotions Affects Your Relationships

Emotions don’t just stay within you—they spill into your interactions with others. When you ignore your feelings, you may find yourself:

• Becoming more reactive to situations

  
  

• Holding onto unresolved feelings, leading to resentment

  
  

• Struggling to communicate effectively with loved ones

  
  

• Withdrawing from people or isolating yourself

  
  

• Having frequent misunderstandings or conflicts

Suppressing emotions can create a cycle where unspoken frustrations build, making healthy communication and connection more difficult. The people around you might not understand what’s going on, leading to even more strain in your relationships.

The Impact on Your Wellbeing

Emotions are deeply connected to physical health and daily habits. Ignoring emotions can cause:

• Disrupted sleep – Racing thoughts, anxiety, or emotional exhaustion can keep you awake at night.

  
  

• Changes in appetite – Stress and unprocessed emotions can lead to overeating, undereating, or craving comfort foods.

  
  

• Lack of motivation to move – Exercise is a natural stress reliever, but when emotions feel overwhelming, it’s easy to lose the drive to stay active.

  
  

• Mental exhaustion – Constantly avoiding emotions takes energy, leading to burnout, fatigue, or difficulty finding joy in everyday life.

Unchecked emotions can also contribute to chronic stress, which is linked to high blood pressure, heart disease, and other long-term health concerns.

Misdirected Anger and Frustration

When emotions are ignored, they don’t just disappear—they often resurface in unpredictable ways. You might find yourself snapping at a friend, feeling resentful toward a loved one, or getting frustrated over minor inconveniences. Unprocessed emotions can cause misdirected anger, leading to regret and further emotional distress.

This doesn’t mean you’re an angry person—it simply means your emotions need space to be acknowledged and understood.

They Feel More Unmanageable Over Time

The more emotions are ignored, the heavier they feel. What starts as a small frustration can grow into overwhelming stress, and what begins as sadness can deepen into prolonged low mood. Emotions don’t become easier to manage by pushing them away; in fact, they often feel even more intense when they finally demand attention.

Feeling Your Feelings: The Path to Healing

So, what can you do instead of suppressing emotions? The answer is simple but not always easy: allow yourself to feel.

• Acknowledge what you’re feeling – Instead of dismissing an emotion, name it: “I feel anxious,” “I feel hurt,” or “I feel disappointed.”

  
  

• Create space for emotions – Take time to process how you feel through journaling, talking to someone you trust, or practicing mindfulness.

  
  

• Express emotions in a healthy way – This could mean crying, moving your body, painting, writing, or engaging in activities that help you release emotions safely.

  
  

• Practice self-compassion – Remind yourself that it’s okay to feel. Emotions are not weaknesses; they are part of being human.

  
  

• Seek support if needed – If emotions feel overwhelming, speaking with a therapist, advocate, or support group can provide guidance and reassurance.

By allowing yourself to feel your emotions, you give them the space they need to be processed and released, rather than stored in your body or mind.

Final Thoughts

Ignoring your emotions may seem like a temporary solution, but in the long run, it only creates more tension, stress, and disconnection. Your emotions deserve to be heard, understood, and expressed in a healthy way.

Feeling your feelings is not a sign of weakness—it’s an act of self-awareness, self-care, and strength. Give yourself permission to process your emotions, and in doing so, you’ll create a healthier, more balanced, and more fulfilling life.

If you or someone you know is struggling with emotional wellbeing, MHM Wales is here to help. Reach out to us for support, guidance, and resources to help you navigate your mental health journey. You are not alone.